The title is sarcastic and supposed to be funny and I know some of you are confused. So let me set things up: on Thursday, during the last class of the day, a girl was talking to some of her friends about her most recent break up. She said something along the lines of “I’ve never been single for three weeks since like, five years ago! It’s so weird.” I admit that I did a double take because this girl is a sophomore, so five years ago would be the sixth (possibly fifth) grade. She hadn’t been single for three weeks since that long ago.
While I won’t go into any more details, something else popped into my mind during that time. A few weeks ago, I was scouring though my Twitter feed when Ally Carter was tweeting about she was always getting emails about girls asking (and some threatening) to make sure Cam, from her Gallagher Girls series, would end up with a guy. Ally talked about how this upset her and made her angry as a woman.
My big concern is: Why is it that women and girls feel like they need a man to make them happy? Or is it just me?
I am so sick and tired of reading a book where the plot is amazing and the writing is riveting and the main character is a badass dump it all for a romance, or in this case, a man.
It was the reason I never finished Shatter Me. After Juliet meets Adam, the entire plot is about their love. The same with The Unbecoming of Mara Dyer. And Easy (you can debate this if you want). And so. Many. More. YA books.
I just want to know why.
I feel like the man (or boy) is thrown to justify the main character for some reason. Why is it that a love interest can’t be introduced and the girl doesn’t forget about everything else? While I didn’t write it in my review, but was Noah there just to pacify Mara’s “craziness”? I thought it was (sort of; Noah is a douche) great that Mara could have some romance but why did she drop everything whenever he asked her to?
I recently read Etiquette and Espionage and while the writing style was hard to adjust to, I loved that Gail Carriger introduced us to a 14 year old protagonist who, well, didn’t always need a boy (she is after all 14, so you know, awkward calling a love interest a man) to help her out. Sure he could help her find her way around an unfamiliar place but Sophorina fought her own battles and she let any boy know that she was capable to taking care of herself.
Even though some love triangles can be done well, I always feel like they imply that the main character HAS to be with a guy. I always feel like the main character is sort of trapped. She can’t choose herself but someone else to justify her.
Why can’t a girl be happy with herself for a change? Is being single really that bad?
Books like Ally Carter’s are rare in my opinion. One of the reasons I love The Gallagher Girls series is simply because it’s not about Cam and some guy. It’s about Cam and her friends and family and Cam learning who she is. I would never hate Ally Carter if she decides to leave Cam single or with a guy.
I just feel like before you love someone else, you need to love yourself. All of your quirkiness and weirdness and awesomeness and every other unique aspect about you is justified because of who you are; not by being loved by a man.
**I have nothing against LGBTQ romances AT ALL. I just went with what I knew and I don't mean to exclude any type of romance!